Love and other substances – Punita Boardman

Another brilliant piece from a GUNNAS WRITING MASTERCLASS WRITER

Grief

Good grief

Bad grief

Ugly grief

Never

Ending

Fucking

Grief

I have been conditioned by grief since I was five years old

And here I am at 58

Still trying to work it through

Is grief just about someone who dies?

Fuck no

Grief at losing a dream is also grief

Grief about failure

Grief about broken promises

Grief about things I cannot control

Control

Out of my power to control

Things

Events

People

Relationships

Loss of control about who I have in my life

How I want that to look and feel

Maybe addiction

Mine and others

To love and other substances

Is all about the intersection

Of grief and control

Trying to escape the grief

Trying to ignore the lack of control

These three emotional states

Are ruling my life, and

I am fed up

Control the controllable

What in all this do I have control over?

My thoughts

I can re-wire my thoughts

If I re-wire my thoughts

I can change my reality

I can get on top of my addiction to love, to her

I can feel more in control of my life

If I feel more in control of my life

I can deal with my grief

Again

And sculpt a different future

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